6 Steps to Using Intuitive Dating to Build Deep and Meaningful Connections

At Lovewell, we believe that dating is about more than just finding a partner—it’s about discovering yourself and creating relationships that nourish your mind, body, and spirit.  We know from experience that the journey to finding the relationship you are looking for begins within. That’s why we’ve developed our unique approach to dating, called Intuitive Dating. This method empowers you to break free from old patterns and build kinder, more authentic connections. It combines mindfulness, attunement to needs, somatic psychology, and values-based actions to cultivate relationships rooted in growth and self-awareness. It is taught by our online dating coaches and available in a course format through The Portal as one of our signature maps. In case you have more questions, I will do my best to answer them in this post.  

What is Intuitive Dating?

Intuitive Dating is a holistic approach to dating that emphasizes self-awareness, self-confidence, and personal growth. Instead of following traditional dating “rules” or playing games to manipulate an outcome, Intuitive Dating encourages you to connect deeply with your own needs, feelings, and values to build your self-trust and self-confidence. By connecting with others from this place, you are engaging with and attracting others who also share those values. Intuitive Dating involves mindfulness practices, somatic awareness tools (tuning into the sensations and emotions in your body), and aligning your actions with your core values. By doing so, you can create genuine, nourishing relationships that truly reflect who you are.

What are the Core Values of Intuitive Dating?

At the heart of Intuitive Dating are values that guide your journey to finding love:

• Mindfulness: Being fully present in your interactions and aware of your own emotions and needs.
• Kindness and Compassion: Approaching yourself and others with a gentle, caring attitude.
• Attunement: Developing a deep awareness of your feelings and the feelings of others.
• Forgiveness: Letting go of past hurts and moving forward with an open heart.
• Self-Love and Self-Trust: Cultivating a strong sense of self-worth and trusting your inner guidance.

How does Intuitive Dating Work?

The Intuitive Dating Journey: Your Personal Map to Love

The Intuitive Dating approach is structured around a personalized journey that helps you build healthier and more fulfilling connections. While the course is a structured 14 week journey, below is a glimpse of some of the overarching steps that you can take to embark on this transformative path if you want to start deepening your relationship to yourself while dating!

1. Set Your Intention

Start by clearing your space of any outdated dating advice that promotes playing games or following rigid rules. Instead, set an intention for your dating journey that aligns with authenticity or one of the core values of Intuitive Dating. Use our guided practices like the “Intention Breath” (found in The Portal) to ground yourself daily, especially before and during dates.

2. Date Yourself First

Before seeking connections with others, invest time in getting to know yourself better. Create a list of 20 activities you've always wanted to do—anything from rock climbing to writing in a coffee shop—and commit to doing one per week on your own. This practice not only builds confidence but also opens you up to new experiences and opportunities to meet like-minded individuals.

3. Build Your IRL (In Real Life) Dating Plan

Create a plan for meeting people in person that feels authentic and exciting to you. Display this plan where you can see it daily to stay motivated and committed. Regularly audit your online dating profile to ensure it reflects your authentic self and aligns with your intentions.

4. Boost Your Confidence

Confidence in Intuitive Dating is about building self-trust and embracing your uniqueness. Engage in practices like the "Main Character Visualization" to see yourself as the hero of your own story. Practice "delusional positivity" by believing that others are interested in you and see rejection as a normal part of the journey.

5. Refine Your Approach with the FASTRR Tool

Learn and apply the FASTRR tool to refine your dating strategies. This tool emphasizes taking small, thoughtful risks and reflecting on your experiences to grow. The motto of this tool is “go slow to go FASTRR” by taking the time to reflect and refine. Revisit key practices and tools regularly to stay aligned with your goals and values.

6. Embrace Vulnerability and Communication

Practice open and honest communication as you navigate your dating journey. Reflect on your feelings and needs and express them with kindness. Use the tools provided in our course, such as the FASTRR method and boundary-setting exercises, to assert your truth with confidence.

Your Personalized Intuitive Dating Portal

As you move through the Intuitive Dating journey, make it your own. Rewrite the guidelines that resonate with you in your journal and reflect on your experiences. Use the resources provided to deepen your practice, and revisit sections as needed to refine your approach. This personalized portal becomes your map to a more mindful and fulfilling dating experience. Join The Portal or work with one of our coaches for a deeper dive into the Intuitive Dating journey.

Q&A: Common Questions About Intuitive Dating

1. What makes Intuitive Dating different from traditional dating methods?

Intuitive Dating focuses on self-awareness, mindfulness, and values-based actions, rather than following rigid dating rules or playing games. It encourages a deep connection with your own needs and feelings, allowing you to make more authentic choices in your dating life.

2. How can Intuitive Dating help me break free from old dating patterns?

Intuitive Dating provides tools and practices, such as self-reflection exercises and mindfulness techniques, to help you recognize and release old patterns that no longer serve you. By cultivating self-awareness and aligning your actions with your values, you can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

3. Do I need to be experienced in mindfulness or somatic practices to benefit from Intuitive Dating?

No prior experience is necessary. The Intuitive Dating approach is designed to be accessible to everyone, regardless of their background. Our course provides step-by-step guidance and resources to help you develop these skills and apply them to your dating journey.

Ready to transform your dating life? Join our Intuitive Dating map at Lovewell and start building kinder, more loving connections today, or contact us to work with one of our certified coaches online. Explore our unique tools and practices designed to help you date from a place of self-awareness and authenticity.